Mary -Story of Motherhood

I met Mary for the first time in our neighborhood playing with her daughter. Her kind, friendly spirit simply draws you in. I’ll be honest, I was dying to photograph her beautiful blond hair for months!

Enjoy Mary’s story…

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1. How has Motherhood changed you as a woman?
In almost all ways I’m the same person I was before having my daughter. That said, something does totally shift in you when you have a child. I’ve always been very independent, but when my daughter was born I ceased being #1. I think this change is more drastic for mothers than it is for fathers (perhaps initially because the baby is dependent on you for food/breastfeeding, etc). Another thing that changed for me is that I was a lot more career focused before I had my daughter. She just became more important to me.

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2. What is your full time occupation?

I work in international development – I used to travel a lot internationally and loved it. I also worked long hours on proposals and projects. When my daughter was born, I surprised myself by deciding to take a lot of time off. I left my job to spend more time with my daughter. Fortunately, I was able to find a part time opportunity with my same organization. This way I have more manageable hours and I don’t have to travel while she is so young.

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3. Tell us about your family (number of children, the family you were raised in, where you are from)

I am the youngest of three girls; we were raised by a stay at home mom and had loving and engaged parents, both mom and dad. I grew up on both the east and west coasts, as well as the southwest.

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4. What is one family tradition you have raised your family with?

Hmmm, I’m not sure it is a tradition per se, but for us we just want to enjoy our time as a family as much as possible. A lot of parents that I know enjoy taking trips away from their kids, but my spouse and I really enjoy traveling with our daughter.

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5. What are your “must-haves” as a Mom?

Regular nap times and regular bedtime. A schedule of fun activities and lots of books. It may sound simple but those things are the key to happy kids, in my opinion 🙂 Kids really respond to structure – nothing crazy rigid but something that makes them feel safe.

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6. What is something you are talented with or passionate about?

I’ve always been good with people – I remember names and things they tell me; people come to trust me, which has a huge impact. That skill has helped me grow quickly in both my professional and personal life.

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7. Any advice for new Mothers?

As much as possible, BE GENTLE on yourself. Things change a lot when you become a mama, there is no need for self-judgment. Also, please try not to listen to any judgment from others. Try to surround yourself with those that won’t judge you.

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8. Where do you call home?

Wherever my family is.

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9. What is a favorite past-time you do with your child/children?

Music classes, concerts, etc. Reading books.

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10. What has motherhood taught you?

Wow. That question could be the basis of a book 🙂 Motherhood has taught me to look at life through the experience of my child. It has also taught me that I have more infinite love in my heart than I could have ever possibly imagines.

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11. Do you have a favorite quote about motherhood?

I don’t have one specifically on motherhood, but one of my favorites from Rilke could definitely be applied to motherhood:

“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.”

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