Celebrating Mother’s Day…when my arms are empty
“Weep with those who weep.” Growing up I heard this verse many times. I was taught to care for people and love them during the hard times. But life and experiences have a way of showing me I have so much more to learn. I long to not just feel bad but to truly empathize. To care.
This year will mark 5 years of waiting for a baby. Years of empty arms and dimming hope. Mother’s Day is coming-and with it-all kinds of mixed feelings. One year I didn’t want to go to church to hear yet another sermon about Motherhood and be surrounded with friends and their children. But like most things…time heals. It never goes away but it does heal. “Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.” -Rumi
I have read the first part of this verse on Mother’s Day for the past few years: “Rejoice with those who rejoice.” How can I rejoice with all my friends and mothers when my arms are empty?! When some days the ache is so deep it just won’t go away! Rejoice. I am here to tell you friends, you can! You can find joy. I claimed this verse even when my heart couldn’t. I now look forward to Mother’s Day. An entire day I can celebrate my own Mother and friends. Motherhood is so beautiful and somedays really hard. I respect my friends who put themselves last everyday.
And yes, I still feel the ache but I wouldn’t trade what God has taught me about caring and celebrating with others for the world. He has softened me in places I never knew were hard. I now receive so much encouragement and support from my friends. The cards and texts have already started…dear friends letting me know they care and haven’t forgotten.
One of my favorite quotes of all time:
“Celebrate her success without questioning your own.” -Jenna Kutcher
I believe every woman should have a chance to tell her story. In honor of all the wonderful mothers I know, I will be starting a new blog series: Stories of Motherhood. It will be a short interview of mothers from all different stages of life. Stay tuned! I have learnt when you embrace other’s gifts they feel like your own. Celebrate with them!
Wherever you are in life my fiend, know you aren’t alone. Even in the dark, sad places there is hope and healing. “Turn your worries over to the Lord. He will keep you going.” Psalm 55:22a